'Is sexual promiscuity ruining long term relationships?'
Has anyone ever watched a movie where the husband and wife were really old and still in love. They were best friends and knew each other better than anyone else. They were each others only sexual partners and never had any desires to sleep with anyone else. Now have a look at our society. Divorce is VERY commonplace, and to have only one sexual partner is unheard of and even frowned upon. There are quite a few problems happening around us in the world of relationships, and no one seems to even notice.
First of all, husband and wives of today's society seem to only be together out of necesity or procreation purposes. They are not close and do not even know eachother that well. The reason for this is that our partner is no longer our best friend. We cling to our friends like lifelines, and throw away partners every couple of years. Am I the only one who can see how wrong this is?!?! I feel like I am going mad! The person who you let be closer to you than anyone else (And yes, I mean physcially) should be the person whom you trust and confide in the most. Your partner, with whom you make babies should be your best friend, someone who you will be with for the rest of your life. This is why the courting process is supposed to be long and drawn out. You should get to know the person that you are going to marry, so then you are VERY sure that it is them that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
But in saying all of that, the bigger problem and point of the topic, is sexual promiscuity. In our society you must 'try before you buy'. Those who don't are teased and looked down upon. How can you marry someone if you do not know how they are in bed? What a ridiculous statement! My answer to that is how do you know if someone is bad in bed if you have both never been with anyone else? It makes sense, doesn't it? In the days of old (Like the 1600's) sex was seen as a very special thing, to be protected and savoured. To have sex before marriage was to taint someone, and to have multiple partners was dirty and vulgar. By multiple partners being commonplace we have lost how special sex is. Now it is as normal as kissing or even holding hands. Again, I feel like I am the only sane person on the planet! So many problems can be avoided by only having one partner! Bastard children, STD's (STI's), unreal expectations, feelings for old partner's being sparked, children to other partners, child custody, alimony... I could go on forever!
I think we need to remind ourselves of what our grandmother's used to say, 'no one wants to buy the cow when you're giving out the milk for free!' Unfortunately, the sad truth is that we are losing everything that is special in our lives, and we are filling that void with crap! We need to go back to the days when the simple things were the most special. We should get a thrill from holding holds, and reserve the most delicate and important parts of ourselves for our special ONE.
Please let me know if I am not going mad, or if I am. I would love to know if I make any sense to the rest of the world.
-T.J.
